The Amazing Grace of a Grateful Leader
It is amazing what can come to you once you stop grasping and get grateful.
"Always be thankful. Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father." Colossians 3:15-17 (NLT)
Gratitude is cardinal Christian virtue, and an essential part of the inner character and spiritual armor of a godly leader. The word itself is derived from the Latin word gratia which means grace. Gratitude is essentially synonymous with grace.
The grace of gratitude in a leader’s life has both a public and a private dimension. Constantly expressing humble gratitude and heartfelt thanksgiving in your daily communion with God is absolutely essential to spiritual health and vitality (Psalm 100). Like Paul, we should celebrate in awesome wonder the fact that God has loved us, saved us, and entrusted us to share the glorious good news of the gospel of Christ (1 Timothy 1:12).
The public dimension of gratitude has to do with outward expression. The scripture says open rebuke is better than secret love (Proverbs 27:5). In other words, it is better to be angry at someone and tell it than to love someone and hide it! Simply said, if you love someone – say so! If you appreciate someone – tell them so! You must never keep gratitude secret.
A grateful leader is a great grace to the church. He leads with a gracious spirit and cultivates a gracious spirit in others. A church with a grateful and gracious spirit possesses a unique and powerful magnetism to attract and hold both sinners and saints to the redemptive community of Christ.
An ungrateful leader generates an atmosphere which thwarts the growth, health, and progress of the church. A thriving vital church will always elude such a leader, in spite of the his gifts, intelligence, the correctness of his doctrine or any other skill he possesses because his heart is seriously and fundamentally out of step with the heart of God.
Gratitude is synonymous with grace but scripture defines ingratitude as a symptom and characteristic of depravity (Romans 1:21, 2 Timothy 3:2).
Some signs of ingratitude:
- Frequent complaining about the church to God, spouse, others
- Preaching emphasizes shortcomings without celebrating strengths
- Frequently asking for more, infrequently expressing thanks and appreciation
- Living and leading with one eye open for a better ministry “opportunity”
- An interior life which is restless, anxious, not content, not at peace.
- Leadership which depresses and repels people.
Some signs of gratitude:
- Constant, heartfelt thanks in personal prayer and worship
- A positive view of God, presenting the gospel in a winsome way.
- A positive view of people. Seeing others as God sees them. Celebrating what is good.
- An interior life which is serene and stable, a heart which is at rest.
- Leadership which attracts, encourages, and inspires people.
Vertical Thanks, Horizontal Praise
When a leader chooses intentional gratitude in the private dimension of his life with God and purposes to communicate gratitude in the public dimension of his life with people, he catalyzes change in both dimensions; his heart enlarges with more Christ-like love and the positive atmosphere in the church and tells members and onlookers that this is a place where love is real and great things are possible.
The Gracious Fruit of Gratitude
The last church I served started with just 42 very average folks. One of the commitments we made early on was to be grateful for the church God had given us. Every week in prayer we made it a point to tell the Lord how thankful we were for all of the grace in our little congregation. This same attitude was continually pressed upon the congregation. We preached boldly and without fear - but we never pressured people or chided them for not doing more. Instead, we celebrated grace and lovingly invited them to join us in what God was doing. Before long, our church became a place that people loved to go to, in part because the atmosphere was positive and uplifting. Of course we always wanted to grow, but we avoided impatience, hype, and pressure, beginning with our own hearts as leaders. We learned to live in a spirit of gratitude and in the end we saw the fruit of our faith. My last Easter service there had over 700 people in attendance and saw 31 people receive Christ. It is amazing what can come to you once you stop grasping and get grateful.
Gratitude is Essential to Victory
It is utterly impossible to be spiritually victorious in ministry or in any part of our lives apart from a heart which is grounded and guarded by gratitude. Dr. John Piper expresses this beautifully in a sermon entitled “Guard yourself with Gratitude” 1
“Imagine for a moment that your city is surrounded by enemy forces who aimed to destroy you. And you are aware that enemy sympathizers live and work in the city with a view to undermining the city's defenses. And suppose you discover that there is a song which the enemy and their sympathizers cannot tolerate or approach. Whenever they hear it, they pull back and run the other direction.
Isn't it certain that you would want to learn this song? And after you learned it, you would sing it when you went to bed at night and when you got up in the morning. You would sing it on the way to work, and whenever you were among strangers. And as your confidence grew you would even venture outside the city and sing it as you walked boldly through the enemy lines on your way to another town. The more deeply embedded in your mind the song became, the more steady and deep and serene and fearless your life would become. Others would see and hear and learn the song from you. And in the end you would conquer the enemy, and there would be no threat at all.”
And what is this “song which defeats the enemy”? Dr. Piper goes on to say,
“...thankfulness is an essential guardian of the soul, and therefore we should guard ourselves with gratitude. Evidently we are fair game for the devil when we don't abound with thanksgiving. Unless the song of thanksgiving is being sung in our hearts the enemy outside will deceive his way into the city of our soul, and the enemy sympathizers within will make his job easy. So for the sake of your own safety, strive to fill your heart with thanksgiving! Guard yourselves with gratitude!” 1
Gratitude is not Passive
Being grateful for what you have does not mean being passive or not wanting more for the kingdom of God. It is not a “Pollyanna” view of life which ignores problems and turns a blind eye to sin. Quite the contrary! A grateful leader wants everything God wants for the church and the world. But the grateful leader does not waste time on unproductive behavior or embrace uncharitable attitudes. He does not indulge in wishful thinking about how much better things would be if he only had a better building, more money, brighter people! The patient and grateful leader does not look down on people; he cannot do so because he genuinely loves them, even the difficult ones.
The grateful leader is not unaware of the challenges facing him but he refuses to let a negative awareness dominate his heart attitude. The sins which concern him most are the ones he sees in his own heart; so he leads in love and humility. He knows the forces of darkness gain strength with ingratitude; so he decimates them by grace with a thankful heart.
Embrace The Grace of Gratitude
The first and greatest command is to love God fully and to love people genuinely (Matthew 22:38). If you really love God and your church it cannot help but show. Practice gratitude in your worship life with God. Give thanks continually (Heb. 13:15). Let people know you love and appreciate them too! Use words and deeds.
Keep your eye on the future but always be profoundly grateful for today. You must be thankful for what you have if you ever hope to be entrusted with more. The grace of gratitude will keep your heart and your ministry healthy.
1 Guard Yourself with Gratitude, By John Piper. © Desiring God. Website: desiringGod.org
(blog posting by Steve Poole, Director of VNE Spiritual Leadership Ministry)
